I’m screaming. Feels… I cannot stop screeching. I love love love this movie so far.
… if Finch doesn’t fuck Stifler’s Mom by the end I’m going to be very upset.
Oz and Heather please get back together.
… awww Vicky and Kevin.
Oh my god.
Stifler Stifler Stifler Stifler Stifler Stifler Stifler Stifler Stifler
JIM. JIM DON’T LISTEN TO STIFLER.
loving a character so much you’re slowly becoming them
loving a character so much and having people nickname you after them
loving a character so much and having people say they think of you whenever they hear about the character or things relating to them
This is not my usual post. But it’s something I had to share. As you read this, imagine how your reaction would differ if this story were being told by a woman, talking about how her husband treated her.
I have been separated from my wife for over a year, though we continue to share a house. We live on separate floors. We share the house because we need to parent our son together, and because we can’t afford to maintain two households.
I’d like to tell you a story, illustrating one reason why I am divorcing her. This is an example of the treatment I have received over the past fourteen years.
This evening, while she was drinking her wine, my estranged wife took exception to the fact that I wanted to talk about how tense she’s been. She said she didn’t want to talk about it.
I left the room (so as to comply with her request).
I went upstairs to use our tiny guest bathroom. She began to yell and throw things around the kitchen, then eventually charged up the stairs and into the bathroom, just as I was finishing and getting ready to leave. She confronted me there, holding her half-full wine glass in her hand. Her voice got louder, her gestures wilder.
She complained that I had upset her by wanting to talk when she had told me she didn’t want to talk. As I began to feel uncomfortable, I said, “You’re saying it’s my fault you can’t express your emotions responsibly like an adult?”
She said, “Yes!! It’s because you want to go off and take a vacation with your girlfriend!” Then she threw the contents of her glass in my face and smashed it against my bare chest.
The results are pictured here.
I stood there, with shattered glass at my feet, glass shards sticking in my skin, bleeding, for five minutes or so. I asked her to move so that I could leave. She waved the broken stem of the glass in the air and said, “Leave!! Who’s stopping you?”
I told her she was standing between me and the door. I felt threatened.
She laughed and said, “You’re 6 foot 3 and 250 pounds! You can’t feel threatened by me!”
I said, “You just broke a glass on my chest and cut me. You’re standing there with the stem in your hands. Yes. I feel threatened.
She said, “No, you don’t.”
I asked her to move out of the way and let me pass. I didn’t want her to think I was pushing her or threatening her.
She held her ground, waved the broken stem and shouted, “Go on! Leave! I’m not stopping you!”
After I asked her repeatedly, she finally moved a bit and I left, carefully stepping over the broken glass.
I have posted this here as evidence, and to help those who may think that size and gender make a difference when abuse is concerned. People who, like my estranged, think some have permission to feel threatened and some don’t.
Abusers come in all sizes and genders.
She and I went to a half dozen therapists over the years. At each initial session, every therapist took a look at me, then at her (5’4” 150 lbs.). Then he or she would gravely ask my wife, “Do you feel safe?”
None ever thought to ask me.
Thanks for listening.
Because this needs to be shared. Because abuse is wrong no matter what. Because this saddens my heart.
honestly, fuck tumblr. if this was a woman this would be the only thing on my dash.
with that being said, fuck people who think that women are the only ones that can be abused in a relationship. and fuck crazy women, as well.
Why does this have so few notes? If the man in this picture were actually a woman, this would have so many notes it’d be ridiculous. Everyone needs to see this. Everyone needs to see that abusers can be any shape or size, as if you need to see it to believe it.
And major kudos to this man for not using his size and weight when he very well could have. Kudos to you for being a decent human being, sir.
sickens me how few notes this has. Woman aren’t always these fragile lil creatures and if this post was by a woman, tumblr would be all over it.
This is bullshit. All these women complain about wanting equality, but most of them are sexist themselves. And then when things happen to men, “oh, it’s different because it’s a guy” no. Fuck that. No one deserves to be treated this way.
stop ruining the post by complaining about how little notes this has it got through to every reader the first time.
Calling out a lot of bullshit in these comments. But first of all, let me express that I do feel sympathy for this man. I’m truly sorry. Obviously, if he truly is innocent in that story, he doesn’t deserve to have that happen to him.
But why is everyone seriously complaining about the perceived “lack of attention” this is getting?
This is a prime example of the patriarchy backfiring. Society tells us that the man is supposed to be dominant. Women, and wives in particular have been treated like property forever. Yeah, now married women have some more rights, but many of the stigmas and injustices remain. Not too long ago, it was commonplace for a man to beat his wife. And I’m not so sure how much of that has gone away. I’m not claiming that this man was guilty. I wasn’t there. But the reason why the wife was treated as a victim is because she has typically been seen as property. And there’s no way a “thing” could possibly be the abuser, right? This is the result of years and years of injustices towards women, especially in marriage.
The reason why you guys are told not to hit a woman is not because women have some kind of elevated status in society. It’s because you’re told that women are weak and stupid and somehow below you and cannot defend themselves. THAT’S the patriarchy backfiring.
All of you whinging about how “lack of reblogs = ‘sexist’ women” is really laughable. I’m not a social justice blog, so I don’t have a lot of experience calling this shit out as I see it. But I felt it necessary.
Reblogging for Katkillerqueens commentary
Who give you that ink? Hm?
I asked you a question, who give you that ink? Hm?
Citra give you that ink? My sister give you that ink? Huh?
I guess that makes you one of us.
You think that makes you like me, huh?
Californian boy's got a hard-on for jungle fever.
I’m sure the anon looks fine or at least is privileged with average looks. I have messed up teeth, hair I don’t care for, no fashion sense/interest/money for one and I’m heavier than I’ve ever been because not going out much anymore.
And I am a bitch. Not full-time or as often as some other people but I am in fact a bitch and I spout just as much hate on the net as one of the worst out there.
Whatever. :/ I’m just surprised I got something on my personal. I don’t even particularly understand or enjoy too many people following my person.
Gives us more to be bitchy about.